Some things just scream, “I'm insecure?”; in fact, that phrase is probably circulating around right now on social media. The latest example would be Hailey Bieber, Kylie Jenner, and Kendall Jenner's behavior towards Selena Gomez. Those women have been tagged as “mean girls.” However, how do you really know when someone is insecure?
Here are the top seven signs that show you're insecure, according to Reddit users:
1. Not Admitting When You're Wrong
One Redditor said, “When people cannot admit that they don't know something.”
Another commenter added, “To build on this point: people who are opinionated on a subject where they either know nothing about or regurgitate points off select news sites/feeds.”
Another person added, “I have a friend I've known since I was little, and one of the main reasons we're fairly distant is that he does this about everything. Literally anything I mention I've been doing, places I've been, people I've been spending time with. Regardless of how much I know he doesn't know about a subject, he always has the absolute most condescending, lowest opinion of it. Like, somehow, everything I do happens to fall under the vast umbrella of bad experiences he's had and knows better about now. Like yeah, I was kinda stoked about the thing I'm sharing with you, but never mind, homie, guess you've been there and would avoid that.”
However, another commenter defended, “I find that I usually react that way only if my opinion is being completely dismissed. For example, if I say green apples taste sweeter than red apples, then a friend says, ‘No, red apples are definitely sweeter than green apples,' I will feel personally attacked because he's basically calling me stupid for thinking green apples are sweeter. I don't mind if my opinion is wrong sometimes, but I think it can be worded better when you have a disagreement with someone. Just say your own opinion without invalidating mine. For example, ‘…Personally, I think red apples are sweeter,' is a perfect alternative.”
2. Mocking Someone Else's Achievement
One Reddit user posted, “Mocking someone else's achievement.”
Another one added, “Having to one-up everyone's achievements.”
A third commenter responded with his experience, “I work with a geezer like this, unfortunately. Try to talk about literally anything, and he'll have a one-up. He's full of sh*t tho, lol. Edit: first Reddit comment to blow up, and your responses are funny AF.”
Another Redditor also commented, “Woman I worked with always prefaced stuff like this with ‘that's alright,' as in ‘oh, you are broke? Well, that's alright. I have only a dollar to last me to the next paycheck.' Finally told her, look it's not alright. Knowing you are broke too does not make it alright for me to be broke, so, please! Stop saying that! She left in a snit and didn't talk to me for a few days, and she stopped saying it.”
“Trying to ruin someone else's achievement/ actively celebrating their failures (when they've done nothing to you, at least),” one user replied.
3. Belittling Others
One Redditor posted, “Belittling others.”
Another user added, “Or constantly talking about themselves to prove they're better than others.”
A third user also responded, “Or how about acting like a life coach giving advice at every opportunity? I can think of a famous podcaster that constantly does this…”
Another commenter said, “So I think I accidentally did this. Like someone will say, ‘I just did XYZ. It was really hard,' and I'd say ‘Yo I did that too,' but I mean it in a way to say I'm like you. I can relate to you on this topic, but it gets taken the wrong way, and they try to 1-up me. I've probably done something similar.”
One commenter posted, “Always talking badly about others and trying to make them look weak/bad.”
Another Redditor responded, “Exactly. I knew a mother and son who would always be the quickest to gossip and point out the negative about so many relationships and other people in general. I used to think they were being very realistic and observing people and their flaws. Till I saw their true colors and realized that they were a very insensitive, cruel, and insecure lot who couldn't handle it being dished out to them.”
“You always hear people say to stop worrying if strangers or others are judging you because nobody is paying attention to you anyway. Yeah… it took one night with this couple and just listening to the trash they said about perfect strangers (her mainly, he'd agree). I asked what the point was and she said ‘it's one of the ways we have fun'. Alrighty… lol.”, added a third commenter.
One Redditor posted, “Constantly saying what kind of person you are. If you were, you wouldn't have to tell us..”
“When someone starts with that statement I automatically tune out,” one added.
Another commenter added, “‘I'm a nice guy!'”
6. Never Apologizing
One Reddit user posted, “Never apologizing. Making excuses and even twisting the facts but never apologizing.”
“For the life of me, I don't understand how people can be so insecure. I'm a teacher, and tally up my mistakes every day in front of my class so they can see that even the pros botch a thing or two. If I can do that in front of a bunch of twelve-year-olds, why can't other people do that in their everyday lives?” one commenter added.
A third user replied, “If you get beat for making mistakes, you learn to hide your mistakes. If making mistakes as a kid consistently leads to having those mistakes held over you, weaponized against you, you will end up on guard against anyone finding out about your errors. Beat the puppy, get a mean dog.”
“I have a friend like this. She never admits she's wrong and she also says she's just a ‘tells it like it is' kind of person. Basically excuses herself from accountability when she says mean things. She surrounds herself with friends who will always capitulate to her in anything. I've started to distance myself from this friendship over the past few months as a result,” another Redditor added.
7. Social Media PDA
One Redditor posted, “Constantly having to post how amazing your relationship is.”
Another one added, “In my experience, those are usually the people who actually have very toxic relationships.”
“For real, constant publicizing of your private life is not a good sign of stability,” another replied.
One user also shared his experience, “I've seen this on two separate occasions with one being recently with my roommate. So my roommate literally moved 6 states just to be with his gf he'd been dating for a year. They posted their relationship constantly and from the outside looking in the relationship was ‘perfect'.
“They'd argued so much because it turns out that she was cheating on him with a dude through an online game. Shortly after he gave her another chance after my gf, his friends, and I all told him not to, and they went back to showing how picture perfect their relationship was. When I asked him how it was going he would say great, but the relationship got worse. The arguments got worse; they'd go through each other's phones constantly, give each other silent treatments because they couldn't communicate through a problem, and to finish it off she was still cheating on him. So the moral of the story is don't judge a book by its cover I guess.”
“I cannot fathom how someone could get caught cheating and then go back to the original relationship. If you're unhappy enough to cheat, then why not just end the relationship?” one user asked.
Do you know any other signs of insecurities that are not on the list? Check it out the Reddit thread for more.
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